|Posted on July 6, 2018 at 6:55 PM|
So, you've got that summer vacation all planned out. Tickets ready. Itinerary full. Bags mostly packed. You're mate is excited and wonders why you aren't. You talk it out some. But you can't understand it either. Are you too tired to be excited? Are you squelching your excitement so you aren't disappointed? Maybe you'll "feel it" once you see it.
Maybe you're getting ahead of yourself. If depression, in some ways, is getting stuck in the past, then anxiety is, for many, getting hung up on the future. Some manage their anxiety by "turning off [their] feelings faucet" as I say. Numbing out is, after all, an effective way, in the moment anyway, to manage anxiety.
Trouble is you lose other feelings too, including excitement. As James Taylor, the singer put it, "the secret to life is enjoying the passage of time." So, practice bringing yourself back to today and this present moment. In this present moment, maybe you don't feel excited about that vacation. That's okay. But if you take a moment to visualize even one thing that you desire from that trip, such as gazing at the trees silently passing on the highway or gazing at the sea and horizon line before you, and if you were to linger there for a moment, and would allow yourself to enjoy that, then maybe it doesn't matter so much if you're excited or not. There was one piece of your vacation, you gave yourself, and you already enjoyed!
After all, life is comprised of those little moments. The key is creating one moment right now that's worth while for you.